What Do You Think of St. Anthony's Ban on Gay Prom Dates?

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The Long Island Press published an in-depth article yesterday about prom policies, including a ban on same sex dates, at St. Anthony's High School.

A female student is upset she can't bring another girl to the prom. Officials at the Catholic school say allowing gay dates would be a slap in the face to church doctrine, according to the article.

Do you agree or disagree with the St. Anthony's prom policy?

Please share your thoughts in the comments section below.

Jeff Johnson May 16, 2011 at 12:28 PM
Questions for St. Anthony's school board; 1. Leviticus 25:44 states that I may possess slaves, both male and female, provided they are purchased from neighboring nations. A friend of mine claims that this applies to Mexicans, but not Canadians. Can you clarify? Why can't I own Canadians? 2. I would like to sell my daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. In this day and age, what do you think would be a fair price for her? 3. I know that I am allowed no contact with a woman while she is in her period of Menstrual uncleanliness - Lev.15: 19-24. The problem is how do I tell? I have tried asking, but most women take offense. 4. When I burn a bull on the altar as a sacrifice, I know it creates a pleasing odor for the Lord - Lev.1:9. The problem is my neighbors. They claim the odor is not pleasing to them. Should I smite them? 5. I have a neighbor who insists on working on the Sabbath. Exodus 35:2 clearly states he should be put to death. Am I morally obligated to kill him myself, or should I ask the police to do it? 6. A friend of mine feels that even though eating shellfish is an abomination, Lev. 11:10, it is a lesser abomination than homosexuality. I don't agree. Can you settle this? Are there 'degrees' of abomination? 7. Lev. 21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my sight. I have to admit that I wear reading glasses. Does my vision have to be 20/20, or is there some wiggle-room here? Thanks for your help!
Tom Calabrese May 16, 2011 at 02:07 PM
All old testament stuff. Should really be looking at the new testament stuff because that is the new covenant. Bottom line is there are many denomations of Christian religions. Why would a gay person join one that has a very clear policy against gay marriage? The Episcaplians allow gay marriage. Let St. Athony's practice the doctorine of the Catholic religion they are Catholic. If you don't agree with them join a different denomination.
Maryrose McEvoy May 16, 2011 at 04:14 PM
The Catholic Church stands by their doctrine & bylaws. They have a right to practice their religion which is protected by the Constitution.
Sean Thomas May 16, 2011 at 04:31 PM
Jeff Johnson; don't try and play that off as your own thoughts, I saw that episode of The West Wing too, and also read the letter where The West Wing got that from. I am in full support of LGBT equality and rights, I do not believe that there is anything wrong with homosexuality. If this were happening in a public school it would be a completely different story, in that case a public outcry would be necessary and deserved. Although, in the case of this St. Anthony's girl not being allowed to bring her girlfriend, while I disagree with the Catholic church doctrine and their attitude towards homosexuals, they are a private institution that subscribes to these doctrines and withhold the right to carryout this practice and it really shouldn't be surprising. The girl has chosen to attend St. Anthony's, and while I believe there is no foundation for their beliefs in this area, she should know and should have known that this would be their stance. If she wants to spend the night with her girlfriend go out to dinner and meet up with your friends afterward, if she wants to go to the prom, she can meet up with her girlfriend afterward. This world isn't fair, it's not perfect, inequalities exist where they shouldn't but they do, if this is the hardest discrimination she has to face in her life then God bless her.
steve James May 17, 2011 at 06:27 AM
In the USA the catholic church has been one of the key groups in taking away marriage rights for gays, and preventing their implementatiion in other states. Someone figured out thAt marriage for a couple is worth about $400,000 in benefits over 50 years. The church should be sued for all those who are losing theese benefits. The damages will amount to trillions. And the church's beliefs about Jews, the "christ killers" resulted in endless pogroms - mini-wars against the Jews of Europee. Culminating in the still not EXcommunciated hitler leveraging that hatred to gain power and 55 million died. Justice for the world would be the total dismantling of the catholic church, and every last penny of its assets given to poor people, gays, those related to the holocaust. And given that the current Pope , born and brought up in Nazi Germany, UNexcommunicated Bishop Williamson, a holocaust deniers, in 2009, he and all of his close associates should be brought to trial for crimes against humanity. Which also include the church;s complicity it driving 3000 gay kids to suicide every year. The church is full of its own Bin Ladens, who use words, just like hitler did, to get others to do their dirty work,
steve James May 17, 2011 at 06:29 AM
Did the girl choose to attend or did her parents send here there. Did she understand what was in store for her. NO excuses on this one. bigotry is bigotry no matter how it is dressed up
steve James May 17, 2011 at 06:29 AM
not when it hurts people
steve James May 17, 2011 at 06:32 AM
Thanks for a better understanding of how almost 60 years ago I engineered my getting kicked out of religious school. Proud my 2 of my three kids are aethists who believe that all you need to do besides take care of your family is put some effort into helping others who have serious problems or are not as weell off as you are. All the rest of religion is fluff and brainwashign at best, and "god, the bible, and religion" have been the cause or the supporting cast in most mass murders called wars.
Jeff Johnson May 17, 2011 at 12:00 PM
The KKK has the right too......
Jeff Johnson May 17, 2011 at 12:07 PM
Sean: I have no idea what your talking about. Never said they where my words, but I do love the questions. I am allowed to ask a question even though it was ask by someone else first? The above questions written by: James M. Kauffman, Ed.D. Professor Emeritus, Dept. Of Curriculum, Instruction, and Special Education University of Virginia Posted by: army164 | June 21, 2010 11:25 AM source: http://voices.washingtonpost.com/44/2010/06/huckabee-talks-about-gay-marri.html?wprss=44
lindsey May 17, 2011 at 01:27 PM
I attend another local Catholic High School, one that has faced similar situations and the school responded as they would to any other student: if that is the date you want to bring, you're paying for the ticket, to each his own. This was the response simply because, a student is a student. I am a deeply faithful person who has been attending Catholic school my entire life and have friends who are currently seniors at St. Anthony's, and when I heard about this incident I was embarrassed. The friars at St. Anthony's, while they do have a right to run the school however they want and students and parents sign away their rights when they sign their tuition checks, they are not God. Accepting and loving everyone as God loves you is a core message of the Catholic faith, one that has been twisted and disregarded. Yes, same-sex marriage is against the Church, but at one point it was also commonplace for people to be stoned to death. Regardless of the teaching, allowing gay prom dates does not in any way promote gay marriage. It is also a teaching of the Church that being gay is not a sin, but the physical sexual relationship is because sex is meant to be open to procreation. Is allowing straight couples to attend prom promoting pre-marital sex? Just because they're going to prom together doesn't mean they're doing it. No school has any moral right to discrimination. Maybe St. Anthony's does have the legal right, but I wouldn't be sleeping soundly.
steve James May 17, 2011 at 09:52 PM
this is just another part of the way the church contributes to driving 3000 gay kids to suicide every year, while they rattle about protecting life. Our greatest failure - freedom of religion to demonize others, speak against those others and poison society. Not terribly different then Iran - just get other people to do the dirty work, which includes driving the churchs suicide for gay kids agenda. www.nobeliefs.com/nazis.htm
steve James May 17, 2011 at 09:58 PM
tks. If I was those two kids, I'd get someone else opposite sex to go to the prom iwth my 'friend, and I'd do the same for them. Not too hard to figure out a way to get in the door. And then dance the night away with my same sex friend, Almost cerainly to the cheers of the other kids, and the utter embarrassment of the officials. A little cleverness will set the example and set up the "authorities" and then the day I was 18, if my parents had forced me to go to that school and I was gay, I'd hire an attornye and give my parents one quick chance to publically appologize to the media for their terrible mistake or sue for divorce from them
Meghan May 17, 2011 at 11:22 PM
Last time I checked you didn't have to be catholic or religious to attend St. Anthony's. I know a plethora of students who are Jewish. They don't care about religion,all they care about is their tuition money and the notarity. Now all the sudden they practice Catholic values? Makes you go HMMMM.....Personally the thought of kissing or being with another woman makes me want to vomit, but so do tomatoes, should they be illegal because I don't like them? NO!!! What someone else does in/out of the bedroom has no affect on me and if I had children it would have no affect on them either because we are all individuals. Just my 2 cents!
Jamie May 26, 2011 at 04:30 PM
It is true - you do not have to be catholic to attend Saint Anthony's. This, however, has zero to do with the issue which is that Saint Anthony's, as a Catholic school, teaches Catholic values. The non-catholic students that attend the school are aware of this, continue to go there and do not complain that their religions are not being taught. You know what to expect when you do the research and application process to attend a PRIVATE school. Abide by their rules, values and tenets or go to PUBLIC school. If Saint Anthony's was to give in to every demand to stray from their religious tenets, they would essentially be a pricey public school.


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